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I found a bit of uplifting news today. Gina Lollobrigida is to wed her boyfriend, who is 34 years her junior.

They have been dating for 22 years.

Talk about true love.

I applaud them.

Then again, my own ballistabob is 11 years younger than me. What can I say? It works, and it works great.

(And if you don't know who is Gina Lollobrigida, you just need to do a Google search. She is an Italian actress that was considered at one point "The most beautiful woman in the world.")

(And yes, I am old enough to remember her.)

Age differences in couples can be entertaining. My first husband was only a year older than me. We were young, we were stupid, and we should never have gotten married, but we did and there you have it.

(At least we got a divorce and we lived happily ever after -- in our separate ways.)

My second husband was 13 years older than me. The marriage didn't work out, but that was not due to the age difference. (Some differences run deeper that simple age.)

Third time's the charm, so this time I found me a wonderful man that just happens to have been born later than I did, and I just can't imagine myself married to anyone else.

But I digress.

The point that I wanted to make is that times are a'changing. It used to be that if a man married a younger woman, people thought "What a stud!" If a woman married a younger man it was "That's scandalous!"

There is still a lot of that out there, but the world is beginning to change. Or at least, the world is becoming more accustomed to see older women marrying or dating younger men.

A coworker of mine, a really attractive widow in her late fifties, used to complain all the time:

"I can't find a man. Men my age are interested only in younger women."

"Well, in that case, why don't you look for younger men?"

"I can't do that! That's wrong!"

Two years later she married a man 10 years younger than her. As far I can tell, they are still happily married and having a ball.

At another time, at a Conference, a balding, rather older gentleman approached me and asked:

"So do people go out for dinner after the meetings are done?" .

"I believe so," I said. "There are some restaurants in the area. You can ask around."

"Well, you know." He added, looking at me up and down. "My wife just turned 50, and I'm thinking about swapping her for a younger model."

"Good for you!" I told him, looking at him up and down. "I am into younger men myself. It's great."

"You're what????"

"Into younger men. They are great. And you wouldn't believe how many young men are fascinated by an older woman. It's the experience. They just can't resist."

"Really???"

"Yup. And your wife may want to consider the option too. You might be surprised at what she can find."

"Oh," He says, scratching his head. "I've never looked at it from that point of view."

"Well, now you know. Good luck in finding your younger model."

I never saw him again.

NEXT TIME: The Legend of the Craddle Robber and the Nursing Home Bandit.

Stay tuned.

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reasdream
Oct. 19th, 2006 08:57 pm (UTC)
*laughs at the conference story* Yet another reason why you rock!

(ps, happy berfday)
belfebe
Oct. 19th, 2006 09:01 pm (UTC)
Thanks! :-)
marymont
Oct. 19th, 2006 11:51 pm (UTC)
What an excellent story! Many many cheers to you, and many happy returns of the day.

My first serious bf was 11 years older. I was a 17-year-old college freshman, he was 28, doing his residency, and it never would have worked, but he was a real doll. He gave me my first diamond, in a love-knot pendant. I would love to find him someday and thank him for that wonderful year.

My second serious bf was 13 years older. We realized after being together for 4 years that our goals in life were incompatible. I met him again a few years ago, realized that he was much better off having married my college dorm-mate, and that we still loved each other, just as friends.

My first husband was 11 years older. I got two splendid kids from him, a whole lot of angst and emotional abuse, and some amazing memories. Rest in Peace. I sometimes call him my practice husband.

I took a break for 10 years.

I'm now married to a man who is 13 years YOUNGER. He proposed 40 days after we met, and we have now been married and blissfully happy for over 3 1/2 years. Our finances have been shaky, our relationship has been rock solid, and I feel more loved in one day with him than I felt in 15 years with Husband the First.

I'm not saying that it works this way for everyone, but that's MY tale.
belfebe
Oct. 20th, 2006 05:04 pm (UTC)
Awesome! Congratulations on finding your soulmate. Sometimes it takes a while, but the important thing is that you found each other. :-)
thanate
Oct. 20th, 2006 01:22 am (UTC)
I used to have this theory (back in high school, when these things were just theories because most of the boys we knew were totally not worth wasting time on...) that women ought to marry men who were a few years younger than they were to make up for the life expectancy difference.

And yet... one of my subconscious qualifications to be attracted to someone seems to be that he be older than I am-- anywhere from a month and a half to almost a decade, but everyone I've been serious about has been older than me, taller than me, and dark-haired. Which I figure means if I ever find someone worth marrying, he'll be about one of three... :)
belfebe
Oct. 20th, 2006 05:05 pm (UTC)
Hey, you never know. The important thing is that you find your soulmate, regardless of how older or younger than you he is. You will know when you find him. ;-)
melaniesuzanne
Oct. 20th, 2006 01:25 am (UTC)
What wonderful stories! Happy birthday, you smokin' hot mama!
belfebe
Oct. 20th, 2006 05:06 pm (UTC)
Thank you! I'm telling ya! Life begins at 50. Woot!
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